significant Friend
I get things in my head that are not complete. Ideas and topics I cannot reason out myself. Things I may never share because my footing is loose.
What makes someone comfortable saying one thing and not another? Rules? The rules of behavior, the constraints that filter and create the you which each of us sees. I say each of us, because like most people, I do and say things differently depending upon the situation and who is around. Different people seeing a different you. How many of you are there? Is there a new you with each friend you make? I think so but its not just because of these rules. After I see 3 of you, your a good friend, and after I see 5 we are the best of friends?
I’ve had the concept of your ’significant other’ being your ‘best friend’ grinding through my head. Its a crazy path of thought that branches out and encompasses relationships of all kinds. The paths quickly come back together into a state of confusion. I either don’t know enough about myself to figure it out, or there isn’t enough of me to figure it out. I tend to think it is the latter.
Who is more capable of providing solutions in regards to you than you? Its life experience that gives you the knowledge to think things out and explain them to yourself, and it is only you that sees things as you do. I then wonder about those who don’t trust themselves, and what of those who lie to themselves? They are not me. So I don’t have to think long before I realize what I say may only apply to me.
February 8th, 2008 at 12:20 am
Your response makes me think of people as incomplete and filled with holes. Making different people complimentary to one another, having the ability to fill the holes. My head fills with images of crazy puzzle parts. Some of the holes there for everyone to see, others hidden in the shadow of ourselves.
What if there is a part you don’t have? Making it a part you cannot share. Worse yet its a part that can never be found in someone else? Maybe this is one of those problems in which insight can be achieved through the eyes another.